Selasa, 24 Agustus 2010

10 Ways to Spend Time with Your Kids When You Have No Time

It was Dr. Anthony P. Witham who once said “children spell love
…T-I-M-E.” He was definitely onto something. Unfortunately, if you are like most parents, time is a precious commodity that often eludes us. Whether we have a new job, a new baby, or we just need to make the coffee or strip the beds, we always seem to be wishing for more time. We need more. We want more. But we feel we just don’t have it. Does that mean we don’t love them? Of course not.

Spending quality time with our children is extremely important for their development and happiness. I have interviewed thousands of children around the world and they told me that time spent with them doesn’t need to be elaborate or long, but it must be “quality”. We must find ways then to slow down and slip in some memorable time that will let our children know that we love and care for them.

Many children will let you know in their own “subtle” ways if they feel that you are not giving them the attention that they need. Some will withdraw while others will “act out.” You might see it when a child gives “lip” to a teacher, fights with another classmate or resorts back to behaviors that once got your attention like increased crying, throwing tantrums or even bed-wetting. This is a way to capture your attention, albeit often negative, so that they can enjoy “focused” time with you. Essentially the thought process is, “if I can’t get her attention by doing something good, I’ll get her attention by doing something bad.” Nobody wants that!
So how can you find time when you feel you don’t have any to spend?

1. Define a special time
Children love routine, so allocate a special evening a week to do interesting things with the kids.

2. Create a plan together
Involve children in deciding what will be done at special times, though not in all cases they could be involved. Take time to make plans and discuss what we will do. This is as interesting as doing the activity itself.

3. Playing
When was the last time we played with the kids? Children's games are so-so only, but importantly, we can go on in their world, and they can learn responsibility and understand what they are doing.

4. The group
Sometimes it's good to do something together with other family members. Try to observe the possibility to do it with friends or with a group.

5. Buy a ticket on a regular basis
This encourages us to visit regularly our favorite places, such as zoos. Pleasing to see pembahan-changes that continue to occur in our favorite places. We can see more things when a routine visit a place.

6. Share your passion
Some hobbies such as photography, horseback riding or fishing can be done together. Choose the type of entertainment, which the children can do to one's heart.

7. Cooking
Learn to cook there is always a benefit. Cooking together is also one interesting way to celebrate an event. For instance, celebrated the success by eating cooked menus together.

8. Matches
Work together competing to win something, such as quizzes, games, races and so forth. Encourage the child to take part and build the courage to try something we normally avoid.

9. Go back to our current school report cards
Children are usually very interested in looking back memories of past evidence of an adult while still a child. Raport-school report cards, photographs and other memories when we were kids was the trigger to tell about our past and future of our children.

10. Play hide and seek
This is one example of our toys can do with our children. Try searching for other traditional games and play.

19 komentar:

  1. Very usefull information , i must show this article to my wife

    BalasHapus
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  5. these are good tips for parents sometimes if I feel boring being an adult person, I join with my children than playing dolls, clays, or just dancing and singing songs with them, Those are fun!!!;D

    BalasHapus
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